Warning: If you are triggered or otherwise bothered by frank discussions about childhood sexual abuse, pass this post by.   Nothing annoys me more than being told I can’t talk. Being talked over or any other form of suppressing my self-expression has the same negative effect on me. I recently cam to understand not only […]

We all remember the story of the three little pigs, don’t we? They were being stalked by the big, bad wolf and each little pig built himself a house to keep the wolf out. The first one built his house out of straw. The wolf blew it over with a breath. The second one built […]

Why I am grateful for the struggles I’ve had. Same-sex attraction was hell when all the feelings and emotions I experienced were wrapped up in a desire for intimacy with men and when every word that proceeds from God’s chosen servants told me I must not indulge those feelings. Be the first to like. Like […]

It is one of the hallmarks of sexual addiction that such a person was usually raised in an environment where love was earned, conditional. For those of us who struggle same-sex attraction, we often rely heavily upon the love and acceptance of others of our same sex to help us heal the breach we have […]

In the pamphlet MOST COMMONLY ASKED QUESTIONS ABOUT THE PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION SUPPORT GROUP MEETINGS at ProvidentLiving.org, it says: 8. Are these meetings open to those who deal with same sex attraction? A. Yes.   Be the first to like. Like Unlike

Well, maybe five… In my late forties, I decided to take advantage of having been laid off by Intel where I was doing some web and business programming. I enrolled in a Mental Health and Human Resources program at the community college. In my two years there, I had the experience of having my beliefs […]

Principles of Respect: A Gospel Perspective Based on a Workshop Presented at the 2006 Conference of Evergreen International By Stephen Rex Goode The ideas expressed in the workshop are based on my definitions of the terms as I use them here in my work as a skills trainer of developmentally delayed adults and a mentor […]

As I have pondered throughout my life how I came by the challenge of being attracted to members of the same sex, I have searched for some meaning or purpose in it. Considering how strongly the leaders of the Church have consistently spoken against acting on these attractions, I have needed to reconcile my beliefs […]

At the feast that is life, some people come to the table only to eat and not to serve. Many things are there of which to partake, but no food is quite so sweet as the joy of serving. As the banquet is laid before us, we often take no thought for those who clean, […]

All three kingdoms in immortality are called “kingdoms of glory” and to listen to the descriptions of them, even the lower two seem appealing. I recall many years ago attending a fireside where a speaker in an informal setting did a seminar that was a spiritualization of goal setting. Not having ever been adept at […]

When I was interviewed recently for a local news station in the Salt Lake City area, the thing that the interviewer seemed to find most incredible was my assertion that I am a happily married man who is also homosexual. He seemed to be truly amazed that such a person could exist. His questions seemed […]

Same-sex attraction was hell when all the feelings and emotions I experienced were wrapped up in a desire for intimacy with men and when every word that proceeds from God’s chosen servants told me I must not indulge those feelings. Be the first to like. Like Unlike

Recognizing good and evil This life is the time to prepare to meet God. As Amulek taught: For behold, this life is the time for men to prepare to meet God; yea, behold the day of this life is the day for men to perform their labors. (Alma 34:32) When I am keeping God’s commandments, […]

Enduring to the end I have often characterized my struggles with homosexuality as “difficult”. Particularly, I mention the powerful temptations that I face daily. I perhaps have not done the topic its due, because the battle is only difficult when viewed on its own. Be the first to like. Like Unlike

Learning to be obedient despite temptations When it comes to same-sex attraction, it has long been my belief that obedience is a higher priority than repair or healing. I also believe that the key to being obedient is in learning to accept temptation as part of the plan we were sent here to live. I […]